Lance
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Thank you. If you hadn't responded, I'm not sure what would have happened.

okay thanks yeah

Yeah, but in fairness, that's why I wouldn't repost such articles about you or anyone else in the same manner... having some basic sympathy in general is a good idea and even if I come on strong to people like I said, there are some things I won't do.

It is not possible to a live a regular life by not giving a shit what people thinks. Sorry, but you have no clue of the kind of difficulties people like me face, it's just more of the typical "Keep your head down and don't shove your issues in our face" that minorities get.


Since you haven't had to fight for your very existence, more than likely, you wouldn't understand what it's like, nor would you have any real idea of what a better method for conveying your feelings would be. You can just sit by and pass judgement on someone and feel all smug and better for not having to dirty your hands with that.

But you've read that article, so you know well I've been attacked, and rather constantly. If I really thought I was hurting someone fragile's feelings with my carry on, I'd stop. I cannot say the same of the people I argue with, who often display a vast lack of sensitivity. Who do you think I've upset here, in all honesty? Have I made anyone cry? I doubt it. I may be harsh on people, but that doesn't mean I'm mistreating them, there is often reason to do so.

You have no idea of the fall out of that article, it is not an easy thing in any shape or form to ignore, it resulted in a lot of people having an unfair perception and being "outed" as trans in communities where I did not want it to happen is undoubtedly damaging. It's easy for someone who doesn't have to deal with such issues to say that kind of thing. If someone sees that article on a forum I've just joined, I could end up banned as a preventative measure, and this has essentially happened before.

I saw you were one of those people that posted "that link" in the IRC(stats for the channel show it being posted 4 times, and you were the last to do so), though I still don't know who it was actually adding to the article from the forum. Either way, not cool, and I thought I'd let you know. Stuff like that is extremely damaging and has caused people to project a lot of that past or fabricated behaviour onto how I act now, since I'm outspoken. It might be fun to have a laugh at an ugly tranny who gets up to stupid things on forums, but the truth behind it is that it causes a lot of hurt and provokes more drama in of itself. Someone from Akumakon was posting it about too, and now I'm afraid to go to cons because of it. Thanks a bunch.

(of course, if you knew who was editing it and posted it originally, it'd help undo some of the damage)